When things get out of control, when things go wrong, how can you regain control? We often tend to deny the situation and do our best not to face reality. Of course, this is the easiest way to do it.
The problem is that this attitude doesn’t solve anything. This can even make the situation worse, especially if the problems are financial or medical.
It is true that regaining control of your life may seem impossible. The good news is that you are not doomed to see everything you love fall apart.
Apply the following tips in practice and create your own way out of this impasse that you are in.
1. Tell a different story about yourself
Think for a moment, when someone asks you how you are doing, do you usually complain or get depressed? Or do you talk a lot about what’s wrong with your life?
If this is the case, and if you want to take control of your life, here are some tips. The first thing to do is change your internal dialogue and how you talk about yourself.
You may have heard of impostor syndrome. We encourage you to become an impostor, but from a positive point of view. To do this, tell a new story about your success and the future you dream of.
This is a complex process that will require some effort from you. As soon as this old habit of talking about negative things comes up, change your point of view immediately.
2. Tell yourself that everything is possible
Trying to regain control of your life by thinking it’s impossible to get out of the black lane is a way to sabotage yourself. Obviously, if you have a huge dream or a very big goal, it will take some time.
The best thing to do is to convince yourself that everything is possible, as it happens in most cases. This will sound surreal to you, but you just need a strategy that allows you to achieve small goals, one by one.
3. Place your order
The situation in which you find yourself, of course, is the result of a lack of order in your life. When things start to get out of control, you can move away from the situation and completely ignore it.
What you need to do is figure out a way to actually handle the situation. Start, for example, by making a list of your problems. Then identify the ones that you can decide for yourself. For other problems, it might be better to ask someone for help.
4. Small changes-every day
To regain control of your life when things go wrong, you can’t hope to change your behavior overnight. Give yourself the opportunity to develop gradually, rather than harm yourself by thinking about your obligations all day and every day. You will accept a new way of life and a new mentality that is necessary for this way of life.
Instead of thinking about how you can make a complete transformation, focus on the small steps you take every day and their positive results in your life. Over time, when you see these results, you will be able to make permanent changes and gain confidence in yourself.
5. Stay away from toxic people
You may lose sight of who you really are and what your goals are because of the people around you. The words of others can be negative. Maybe these people aren’t trying to push you down. Maybe they just have other values and dreams.
If you realize that the process of regaining control is more difficult because of certain members of your environment, it’s time to step away from these people.
Stay away from people who don’t bring you anything
This does not mean that you should disable all contacts. In some cases, this is not even possible because they are family members or work colleagues. If so, keep your distance so that their attitude or comments don’t affect you.
If you have doubts about a relationship, remember that negative relationships are always a burden that causes us problems and negative feelings. What you need to move forward and regain control is people who provide support. These are people with whom you can discuss and seek solutions. But don’t expect them to solve your problems for you!
6. Accept your responsibility to restore control
Accept that you are responsible for the situation you find yourself in. It doesn’t matter what it is. Your reality is this, because you made the decisions that brought you here.
When you take responsibility, you will be ready to stop acting like a victim and face reality.